http://frangipaniblog.wordpress.com Bisexuality, atheism, polyamory and everything else I don't want to deal with Mon, 06 Oct 2008 01:21:20 +0000 http://backend.userland.com/rss092 en I've been listening to the Polyamory Weekly podcast pretty regularly for a while now and I found the latest show on communicating 'fearlessly' with one's partners quite timely and relevant. Mainly because I don't do it. Oh I do communicate some. I've learnt to tell my partners when I'm not comfortable ... http://frangipaniblog.wordpress.com/2008/10/06/73/ Lately, the terms 'primary' and 'secondary' have been popping up rather more often than usual in the Poly blogosphere (at least in the part of it that I read) as well as in some of the recent discussions I've had with people in the community. In essence, I understand the usefulness ... http://frangipaniblog.wordpress.com/2008/09/29/primary-and-secondary/ In the comments on my last post, bentcrude asked me to do the interview on her site. I did it, though now I'd like to add a few things to the 'other words that describe you' section since Polyamory didn't get much of a mention. I also don't know why ... http://frangipaniblog.wordpress.com/2008/09/22/coming-out-interview/ So we told some of H's family and got a pretty good response. This time, he did the talking, which I think was a good idea given that he's the reason they'd be interested in the first place and because, by talking about it, he takes some amount of ownership ... http://frangipaniblog.wordpress.com/2008/09/08/more-on-coming-out/ I feel a strange reluctance to talk about polyamory - to even mention it - to people who are about to get married and want to talk to me, the long-married friend, about it. I don't know what it is. I personally don't see marriage as the be-all end-all of ... http://frangipaniblog.wordpress.com/2008/09/05/poly-and-newly-marrieds/ I'm not sure how to proceed. The Poly Old Fart asked an important question a while ago and I've been thinking about it since: Why am I blogging? This is and isn't a journal. While I've outlined my journey from a monogamous to a polyamorous situation here, I've left out lots ... http://frangipaniblog.wordpress.com/2008/09/02/am-i-an-activist/ Nine people who know, that is. I didn't end up emailing that friend of mine but I caught her a little earlier than when we were supposed to meet and filled her in. I'd only just told her when our other friend joined us so I leapt up to greet ... http://frangipaniblog.wordpress.com/2008/08/20/make-that-nine/ Two more coming out stories, and neatly labeled too. 1: In which being blindsided turns out to be less unpleasant than one would expect A week or so ago I told a friend of mine about being poly and bi. She's very queer-friendly so I wasn't worried about her reaction to my ... http://frangipaniblog.wordpress.com/2008/08/18/twice-more-with-feeling/ So I ended it with M the other day. Things generally started to go south about a month and a half ago - right after we got all warm and fuzzy, it seems. Now, of course, all the little niggling doubts I had about our relationship suddenly seem like such ... http://frangipaniblog.wordpress.com/2008/07/26/a-post-mortem-of-sorts/ Someone asked me a few months ago what I ultimately wanted with my relationships, where I saw them going, etc. At the time, I had no clear idea and, for the most part, I still don't. But the other day, A stopped by and, while I was in the other ... http://frangipaniblog.wordpress.com/2008/07/14/a-moment/