If you haven’t come across her yet, know this: Captain Awkward rocks.
Her latest post, in which she tries to help a reader cope with her anxiety around a budding relationship, is both hilarious and actually very good advice. It cracked me up because I recognize myself in both the question and the answer, saw how silly it all was, and realized I was probably not going to get over the silliness any time soon.
Her two very practical suggestions are, well, very practical:
- I would resist, at this stage, getting all up in each other’s Social Media. It’s too easy to obsess, and the more potential points of contact you have the more tempted you are to use all of them at once (or feel ignored via all of them at once).
- Tell your loins to chill out. People have lives and when they meet someone great it sometimes takes some rearranging to have enough time to really incorporate a new dating partner. If you go a week or two without a date, that is normal and okay. It means he is a person with a life and he had plans, and you want someone to have a life. If you go two weeks without any contact at all, not even a quick text, THEN you are allowed to feel crazy, okay?